Manic Pixie Dream Girl( MPDG)

A a stock character in films.

Film critic Nathan Rabin, who coined the term after seeing Kirsten Dunst in Elizabethtown, describes the MPDG as "that bubbly, shallow cinematic creature that exists solely in the fevered imaginations of sensitive writer-directors to teach broodingly soulful young men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries and adventures."

Can I buy you a drink? Or do you just want the Money.

Some introductory (complete) messages I've recently received from an online dating site:

(these were the complete messages)

• "just reading your profile you sound very sure of your self maybe you are just a playa?"
• "Do you tend to internally narrate your own life?"
• "emmm....do you by any chance need a wife? :))"

There is a middle ground between telling your life story, and a pithy stock opening line. Some girls prattle endlessly, others say just hi, and expect the guy to do the work, and some seem to be taking advice from Neil Strauss and open with a neg.

Holding out.

3rd date rule? Shag on the first date? Does it make a difference?

If the only card you hold is letting me sleep with you or not, then it's not going to go far.

I'm still undecided where I stand on this.

If you're not hungry, then it doesn't matter how good the food is.

I've tried not entangling myself with a girl to build more connection, but it's a losing battle.

If you don't have the enthusiasm to see them for subsequent dates, the chemistry ain't there.

Oedipus

I was cycling across France, and picked up a cute Italian girl.

Things were getting steamy, she had her top off, and I was kissing her breasts.

She said "Aww - you miss your mother..."

-That was the end of it really. Both of the story and my erection.

Thoughts

There's nothing wrong with hooking up with your stepsister.

It's like double dating with your Dad.

Greenberg

I watched this movie the other night.

I now have a terrible fear that Roger Greenberg is the man I might become.

Quotes

"You can put on make-up, but you can't hide crazy"

Operation Endgame

Chop Chop

I'm a 38 yo guy. I like kids. They like me. I just don't want my own.

I called the family planning centre to get some information on a vasectomy.

They didn't have anything beyond surgery risks and fears.

Nothing about the social or psychological aspect.

I found a great librarian who pulled a bunch of articles from medical journals.

None of the research was relevant to me - it was either dads who had enough kids, or 22 yo guys who were deemed a bit damaged.

So my gp, and everyone else just shrugged and said make up your own mind.

Am I that unusual?

She knows?

I had coffee with a new girl on the weekend. She was from the internet. She had a sweaty nose. Nowhere else, just tiny beads of sweat on her nose. I could barely concentrate on the conversation, as it took all my focus not to grab a paper napkin, and reach across the table to dab at it.

About Face

I broke a girl on a first date recently. About an hour in, she started talking about 7 year cycles but felt it worked at 8 years for her. I replied by pondering on confirmation bias, and she just crumbled. Her face dropped, and she could barely speak. She realised that I had utterly no belief or interest in the spiritual foundations of her life that had dominated the first hour of the conversation. I've never seen a more powerful change in a conversation. I left before dismay and sadness changed to anger.

Humour

TQ. What's the difference between a joke and two dicks?

A. You can't take a joke.

Profiles

When it comes to online dating profiles, I'm wary of anyone:

Who defines themselves as 'sassy'

Who has a 'great sense of humour' without any evidence of this in their profile.

With a list of deal breakers

With a duckface photo

Who's entire album of photos come from exotic travel destinations.

Who says they 'love to laugh'. Surprisingly common. Opposed to all those who hate to do it.

I'll accept dancing as an interest, even tho I'll do anything to avoid it, but probably not shopping.

Online Dating? Don't Pay.

Why pay dating sites suck

Pick Two.

(unknown source)

Nanna!

At age 19, my grandmother gave me a copy of an American Indian virginity ritual.
Awkward.
It was a classic - the knowledgeable man deflowering the innocent woman.
No mention of how the clueless males in that culture managed.
(which would have been a bit more use to me then)

Getting Older

I just turned 38.
Age has never worried me too much, but my drinking partner dwells on it.
He's been in a relationship for 10 years, so keeps wondering if other girls find him attractive or not, and if he could actually meet new girls if he needed to.
We were out on Friday night (11pm - prime time)and ended up chatting to a couple of 26 year old cosmetic buyers for a department store. The running joke was that we were old and sketchy, and they were young and dumb.
It comes up again in conversation as more than a joke, and one of the girls says:
"You're old; you know how I can tell?"
My friend Blanched.
"Because you can hold a conversation, and you don't keep talking yourself up"

Maybe getting old isn't all bad.

The Rules

I'd forgotten something - you meet the most people between about 10pm and 1am.
That's when people are relaxed enough to chat, but not too smashed.
This was written in stone when I was in my 20s, but some time in my mid 30s I forgot it.
Usually, I go out on a Friday night after work, and run out of steam about 10pm.
This means I never meet anyone other than my immediate circle - everyone is catching up with friends, chatting to workmates, or getting dinner.

The Chop

On my not to do list:
1. A kid I don't want to a girl I don't love.

I'd have a vasectomy if it didn't feel so defeatist.

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Playboy

Back when I was 13, A friend & I discovered pornography.
None of this fancy internet stuff, Playboy was where it was at.
So we went into the newsagent, and bought a mag... plus a 21st birthday card.
-because then the guy at the counter would know it wasn't for us.

I'm being stalked by a scrapbooker

-a teenage friend, who must have an excess of neurotransmitters

... Because I just logged on to chcek for customer emails and got some new friends request. Got to check them out asap.
I LOVE my current job and have a ball - I do what I love and love what I do and today the view from my office window is the cottage garden out of my living area window...with my beloved xxx (dog) at my side. Give me an hour and I will be happily playing with inks, papers, cardstock, stamps, and all the other scrapping and stamping stuff... before jumping the back fence for a swim with my neighbour in her pool when everyone else is driving home - I LOVE my life at the moment!